Falling in love with the wrong person

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If you’re a woman like me, you are probably sick of dating boring men who have no suggestions to what to do on a date, inflexible to go on to go on a spontaneous holiday. Worst of all, unable to surprise! Why can’t the nice guys be a little more interesting, fun and unpredictable?

One evening party at a pub, I met Jack. He was fun, relaxed and made me laugh. He was not afraid to spill his history of disastrous dates and even laughed at them. He never hid what in his mind. After a few drinks, no one would expect that he looked straight into my eyes and told me how different I am from all the girls he had dated before.I was totally caught in surprised and mesmerized by him. He asked for my number and I gave him. And with that we got on into a relationship.

Unlike my ex-boyfriend, the only activities we did during the weekend were watching television at home, dinner at a food court or watch some boring movie. Jack wasn’t anything like those boring chaps I dated, he surprised me by remembering things I said, brought me to my favourite restaurant even there was no special occasion, and he was always up for anything fun and spontaneous. At times, he would send me a last-minute text and appeared right under my flat to pick me up. He constantly intrigued me and it kept me hooked. I was totally into him.

My best friends advised me not to get fooled by all his sweet talks. I am sure girls would like to hear those things, right? And deep inside our heart, we wanted to believe that he really mean it.

Jack and I had great times doing things everything together. I listened to him and we emptied all our savings to travel to Japan, Europe and many other countries. We went to different hotel restaurants for dinner every Saturday. After dinner, we went straight to pub for party and hang out with his cool friends. He always told me life is short, enjoy the moment. His favourite quote, “Why save some much money for the future that still far away. Spend and enjoy!”

My parents hated Jack. It was a totally nightmare when I brought him back home to visit my parents. He was rude. He told my parents that he never have any plans for the future, as in “our future”. However, I always believe I could change Jack.

This went on for a year, till it dawned upon me if we would progress any further. So I decided to take a risk and took him to look at some wedding bands when we were out shopping. I waited and hoped for the day he would finally ask me for my hand.

One Sunday came, he hugged me affectionately and I thought it was going to be that special moment. Instead, he broke the devastating news to me; he wanted us to stop seeing each other.He told me he met a girl from London on the internet a year ago. And recently they had decided to travel around with world together for a year. He said if I am looking for a guy to settle down, he couldn’t commit to more and said I deserved someone better.

It was so sudden, and everything in my world just collapsed.

Jack was everything I could ask for… Unfortunately, to him I wasn’t of any significance but probably only a short-termed companion. The time when we were together are the best times of my life, but it left me hanging there all of a sudden now. I was definitely heartbroken, hurt and I felt betrayed. He promised to love me, but it wasn’t forever. All the things he has said replayed over and over again in my mind, and now this were all turned into plain lies! He is a liar!

I don’t specifically go for bad guys, however, bad guys are just attractive, cool with lots of character. Women yearns to meet someone who could make a difference into our lives, to complement what we already are, to be cared and to be loved. It will be an extra bonus if the man can bring thrills and surprises to our lives. Is that too much to ask for it?

Written by Champagne JSG Member