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In 2009, a survey conducted by Social Development Network (SDN) revealed that 80 percent of respondents indicated their aspiration to get married! The rest who did not want to, gave reasons like other priorities, a lack of time (50 percent) and not being able to find the right one, which are key reasons for delaying marriage. In turn, this contributes to the rising singlehood rates.

Most of us are either dating or just looking around and waiting for the right one. Gracelyn Lee, co-founder of dating agencyChampagne JSG, helps dispel the fears, concerns and misconceptions about marriage.

My choice to be single

“I want to concentrate on my studies first. There are too many things to juggle at the moment.” Carmela, 20, Single

Gracelyn Lee: Yes, I agree that as anundergraduate, studies always come first.

However, never stop networking. Socialising and getting to know more friends are as crucial as doing well academically.

There are many members of our dating agency who are top scholars, some of them even earn $200,000 per year but they are still single. This happens because once you start working, it’s harder to get to know people than when you were at the university.

“I want to remain single for a while so that I can enjoy more freedom and I don’t always have to be preoccupied with putting my family first. For guys, I think age 32 would be a good time to settle down and start a family once you’ve achieved financial stability.” Daniel Lai, 23, Single

Gracelyn Lee: 32 is a good age but what makes him think marriage means less freedom? I would tell him that married couples still enjoy freedom so long as they do not restrict each other and they are free to pursue what they want.

Dating but not ready to settle down

Having spoken to those who are blissfully in love, it is clear that financial stability and age are two of the most important factors that would trigger anyone to consider relinquishing the “single” status. Gracelyn says that nothing is more important than actually setting a goal to get married and plan from there.

“I have yet to start working so I don’t see marriage as an option anytime soon. Marriage means being financially independent. Furthermore, we need a house and to save money for babies and pay bills. Only after two to three years of working, and having saved for myself, would I then consider marriage a possibility. That would make me at least 28 years old” – Dawn Quek, 24, dating

Gracelyn Lee: A lot of people delay marriage because of financial concerns. The truth is, everything gets more expensive as you wait, so settling down early should be a choice you make independent of other factors.

You have to know and decide when to get married. Plan and start somewhere.

Looking out, but haven’t found the One

It is common to hear someone lament: “Why am I still single?” It’s all about actively looking and expanding your social circle. Do not hesitate and take charge of your life!

“I am looking for the right one. But, I am a very passive and shy guy.” – Daniel Lee, 22, Single

Gracelyn Lee: He should take part in events or activities to build up his social skills.

Practice does makes it perfect and by meeting more people, he will be become less shy and more proactive.

“I am ready to fall in love and settle down. I’m just waiting for the right woman to come along.” Male, 28, Single
Gracelyn Lee: People sometimes refer to the one with the “right chemistry” or the one whom you have been “waiting for”. Whichever the case, I would say it is all about the hit rate. The more people you meet, the higher the chance you allow yourself to meet the right one. So, go out and meet people!

Source : http://www.funkygrad.com/think/displayarticle.php?artID=1172&subcat=relationships

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July 22, 2010 at 3:03 pm

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